I am the queen

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"Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s..."

Wed, 19 Jun 2013 11:45:15 -0400

“Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them fuckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.

Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.

That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?

The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.”

- Why You Shouldn’t Tell That Random Girl On The Street That She’s Hot » Brute Reason (via albinwonderland)

Henry Cavill for Shortlist Magazine; June 2013 [x]

Wed, 19 Jun 2013 01:17:12 -0400

Henry Cavill for Shortlist Magazine; June 2013 [x]

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flatabsandthighgaps: “Be hydrated”, they said “It will give you good hair, and clear skin,” they...

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 23:28:23 -0400

flatabsandthighgaps:

“Be hydrated”, they said
“It will give you good hair, and clear skin,” they said
“It’s good for you,” they said

“I CANNOT EVEN SLEEP BECAUSE I HAVE TO GO URINATE EVERY HALF HOUR”, I SAID

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syphilyssa: the last message u’ll ever get from me

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 22:25:26 -0400

syphilyssa:

the last message u’ll ever get from me

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Mon, 17 Jun 2013 21:05:36 -0400

reallyreallyreallytrying: “average person eats 3 spiders a year” factoid actualy just statistical...

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 07:40:10 -0400

reallyreallyreallytrying:

“average person eats 3 spiders a year” factoid actualy just statistical error. average person eats 0 spiders per year. Spiders Georg, who lives in cave & eats over 10,000 each day, is an outlier adn should not have been counted

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Sun, 16 Jun 2013 22:00:05 -0400

In Which Maria Goes Off on Beauty Pageants

Sun, 16 Jun 2013 21:56:40 -0400

I’m sitting on my couch watching girls walk across a stage in their bikinis while a panel of judges base their self-worth on how many ribs they can count, and somehow I am supposed to be okay with this. We are supposed to be celebrating these women that smile politely, bare their bodies for public scrutiny, and spend 5 hours in hair and makeup in order to win over America. I’m having a lot of trouble deciding what makes them worth celebrating though. I have yet to hear a word out of their mouths, and the “interesting facts” about them that Giuliana Rancic is announcing as their titties bounce up and down the catwalk are hardly interesting - they are digging through every little thing about these women to make them seem relateable, but in reality, they are so calculated.

It upsets me that shit like this still exists. We are trying to move forward as a society, to equalize men and women, to give people jobs based on merit and to not judge people based on appearance. And yet here we are, holding these barbaric and primitive contests where America points at a screen and goes “PRETTY,” and then that woman is awarded money for some reason. Because her genes are expressed in a way that is aesthetically pleasing by pure chance.

And I know none of them are being forced to compete. And none of them are harmed by this. But people outside of the pageant are being harmed. Girls are learning that their self-worth is tied to their appearance, and that they should base how they feel about themselves on what an audience (in this case, society, or mostly, the straight male) thinks of them.

As a girl who struggled with an eating disorder and self-harm all rooted in the fact that I couldn’t stand the way I looked, I want beauty pageants to be a thing of a past. Because there are girls out there who are watching this right now and deciding that they aren’t good enough. I hope every contestant and everyone involved in any beauty pageant is aware of the ramifications of this on society.

"Half the world’s starving; the other half is trying to lose weight."

Sun, 16 Jun 2013 21:30:23 -0400

“Half the world’s starving; the other half is trying to lose weight.”

- Roseanne Barr (via artistsuffer)

koithelion: Good Dick Will Imprison You

Sun, 16 Jun 2013 20:34:05 -0400

koithelion:

Good Dick Will Imprison You

fuckyeahvintage-retro: Brass Halo, 1950s - Illustration by...

Sun, 16 Jun 2013 20:27:55 -0400

fuckyeahvintage-retro:

Brass Halo, 1950s - Illustration by Robert Maguire.

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